Say Anything Blog

I have posted an article which was published in today’s Chicago Sun Times.  I guess it’s OK, but, it’s pretty graphic.  You can read the whole thing HERE.

Excerpts of the article:

Welcome to the new breed of healthy young men who rate sex way beneath their other appetites. In this brave new world, girls are a pain, a disappointment, and rather dangerous to the soul. Self-preserving boys would rather be satisfied with a brew and bit of beef than an erotic tide of reckless passion.

There are lots of guys today who have sexually retreated, or soured on the mating game altogether, and you don’t have to search out “Miller Time” or Taco Bell to find them.

My chief indictment at present, the one we can prove, is Pharmaceutical Abuse. Many of America’s favorite medicines depress the libido, and ironically, the most notorious ones are used to treat depression. Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil, and all the rest have made a lot of people feel “happy” at the expense of feeling horny.

I find the spectacle of men’s declining sexual self-interest disturbing. I never would have guessed that this would be the threat I’d be confronting thirty years after the modern gender liberation movement began. I’m an advocate for men being sexually sensitive and discriminating, but what I see in the erotic arena is mostly men who feel disconnected from their bodies, from the “dating game,” and who feel terribly pessimistic that anything is going to change.

I know from those I spend time with in Marriage Counsel that this is a problem.  It has become too much work to do the deed for some men.  They don’t want to fight the battle any more.  The pleasure derived from a beer, a burger and a ball game has become a substitute for being a marriage partner in every way.  And there are other things which I won’t go into here.

Sufficient to say, if this trend continues we will have neutered men, desperate women, childless and lonely.

How did we get here?  What happened? I would appreciate an opinion.  I think we have deep trouble.

PS: I did not link directly to the article which first appeared in Huffington Post this summer.  The comments were very direct and graphic.  If you insist on reading them let Google be your guide.