One of the most important things is to be a good listener. Also, don’t talk about other girls that you’ve liked. And ask her questions about herself and her life--what does she like best about school, her favorite TV programs, does she have pets? Ask gher about th ecat or dog. And remember, asking “why?” will encourage someone to open up more about themselves.
Remember, while you want to make a good impression on the first date, you also want to learn more about her.
And when she asks you questions, be honest, and as open about yourself as you can. You want someone to like you for yourself. Also, make a note if she is being open and honest with you, too.
The best advice always has been and always will be, and as the other posters commented--be yourself. You can’t lose.
Tammy - 07:12pm on 12/14/2005
You sure this isn’t embarrassing him?
Anyways - just be yourself, be polite, and listen as well as talk.
If nervousness is an issue and you are prone to getting clammy hands, put a small wad of cheap tissue in each pocket. If you feel the hands getting sweaty, just pop your hands into your pockets and dry them off. It is important to get the rough stuff or else your hands will be covered in little tissue particles.
I don’t know what else I could say… Just have fun.
likwidshoe - 07:12pm on 12/14/2005
Have fun, be yourself, and be polite. Open doors for her. Bring her some market flowers when you pick her up. Nothin fancy, even some daisys or something will go over HUGE!!!!
gilbyguy - 07:12pm on 12/14/2005
Lik, he doesn’t I know I posted this yet.
And he doesn’t drive, so I suppose his mom will have to drive them. Unless they meet there or something.
My advice for him was this: If you want to hold her hand or put your arm around her, just do it. Trying to be sneaky about it is just going to make you look like a dork.
Rob - 08:12pm on 12/14/2005
You didn’t say how old he was, so it’s kind of hard to give specific advice. (I’m assuming that he is 16 or under based upon the non-driving thing)
If the date goes well, end the date with this simple statement: “I had fun tonight. Can I ask you out again sometime?”
It’s to the point, without being overbearing.
Oh, and if he sees his friends (which is quite possible because dudes like to show up and ruin a friend’s date), aknowledge them, but don’t spend more than a few seconds saying hello. The night is about them, not his friends.
Paulie B - 11:12pm on 12/14/2005
My advice would be to do something else, as movies are never a good option for a first date (there’s no conversation). Beyond that, I would advise him to keep the conversation centered around Star Wars and the Minnesota Vikings--chicks really dig that.
Dave - 11:12pm on 12/14/2005
My advice is to ignore Dave--no offense intended Dave--because movies are a great first date for nervous teens who can’t drive and probably have limited funds. Oh, and don’t refer to her as a chick. Chicks hate that.
About opening doors--always a good idea, but don’t make a production out of it. If you have to dart in front of her and knock a 65 year old grandmother out of the way, you’re not going to look too suave. So open them by all means but if you miss a few, no big deal.
Offer to pay, but if she insists on paying for herself, don’t make an issue out of it.
Definitely don’t talk about other girls you have liked. Not a classy move.
Compliment her, but don’t go overboard. A simple “you look nice today” will do wonders. Comparing her repeatedly to the moon and stars won’t go over well unless you’re Lord Byron.
Don’t try to suck face on the first date, it’s not classy.
As others have said, talk--but also listen to her with interest. Look in her eyes when you talk, not...uh, somewhere else.
Good luck to him!
Seth Williams - 05:12am on 12/15/2005
Relationships are a two way street, but don’t worry about your side. Be interested in her. Find out things about her you did not know - what does she like to do? When she shares something, ask a question that will give more detail. This shows that you are listening, that you are interested and you get to learn more about her.
On the flip side...don’t talk too much about yourself, unless she asks something. If you never bring yourself up and she never asks anything, that can be a good indicator on a date with little potential for the future.
Most guys go into dates trying to figure out what they can get from the lady, be it physical pleasure or look good in public or whatever. It is a completely wrong attitude...your goal should be for her to have a better time than you do. (And if that happens, you should also end up having a good time.)
I’m also not a fan of movies for dates because it eliminates conversation. If you can go grab a burger afterwards and talk about the movie and other things, that helps.
Finally, be yourself. If she doesn’t like who you are...it will end eventually. No point in trying to hide it at the beginning.
King of Fools - 06:12am on 12/15/2005
It’s never too early to break up.
The Whistler - 09:12am on 12/15/2005
Good advice from most of you. Kyle is an amazing person. Smart (straight A’s) Talented (plays trumpet, french horn, and piano.. mostly classical music) He’s handsome and he stayed nice when he became a teenager.
One of the most important things is to be a good listener. Also, don’t talk about other girls that you’ve liked. And ask her questions about herself and her life--what does she like best about school, her favorite TV programs, does she have pets? Ask gher about th ecat or dog. And remember, asking “why?” will encourage someone to open up more about themselves.
Remember, while you want to make a good impression on the first date, you also want to learn more about her.
And when she asks you questions, be honest, and as open about yourself as you can. You want someone to like you for yourself. Also, make a note if she is being open and honest with you, too.
The best advice always has been and always will be, and as the other posters commented--be yourself. You can’t lose.
You sure this isn’t embarrassing him?
Anyways - just be yourself, be polite, and listen as well as talk.
If nervousness is an issue and you are prone to getting clammy hands, put a small wad of cheap tissue in each pocket. If you feel the hands getting sweaty, just pop your hands into your pockets and dry them off. It is important to get the rough stuff or else your hands will be covered in little tissue particles.
I don’t know what else I could say… Just have fun.
Have fun, be yourself, and be polite. Open doors for her. Bring her some market flowers when you pick her up. Nothin fancy, even some daisys or something will go over HUGE!!!!
Lik, he doesn’t I know I posted this yet.
And he doesn’t drive, so I suppose his mom will have to drive them. Unless they meet there or something.
My advice for him was this: If you want to hold her hand or put your arm around her, just do it. Trying to be sneaky about it is just going to make you look like a dork.
You didn’t say how old he was, so it’s kind of hard to give specific advice. (I’m assuming that he is 16 or under based upon the non-driving thing)
If the date goes well, end the date with this simple statement: “I had fun tonight. Can I ask you out again sometime?”
It’s to the point, without being overbearing.
Oh, and if he sees his friends (which is quite possible because dudes like to show up and ruin a friend’s date), aknowledge them, but don’t spend more than a few seconds saying hello. The night is about them, not his friends.
My advice would be to do something else, as movies are never a good option for a first date (there’s no conversation). Beyond that, I would advise him to keep the conversation centered around Star Wars and the Minnesota Vikings--chicks really dig that.
My advice is to ignore Dave--no offense intended Dave--because movies are a great first date for nervous teens who can’t drive and probably have limited funds. Oh, and don’t refer to her as a chick. Chicks hate that.
About opening doors--always a good idea, but don’t make a production out of it. If you have to dart in front of her and knock a 65 year old grandmother out of the way, you’re not going to look too suave. So open them by all means but if you miss a few, no big deal.
Offer to pay, but if she insists on paying for herself, don’t make an issue out of it.
Definitely don’t talk about other girls you have liked. Not a classy move.
Compliment her, but don’t go overboard. A simple “you look nice today” will do wonders. Comparing her repeatedly to the moon and stars won’t go over well unless you’re Lord Byron.
Don’t try to suck face on the first date, it’s not classy.
As others have said, talk--but also listen to her with interest. Look in her eyes when you talk, not...uh, somewhere else.
Good luck to him!
Relationships are a two way street, but don’t worry about your side. Be interested in her. Find out things about her you did not know - what does she like to do? When she shares something, ask a question that will give more detail. This shows that you are listening, that you are interested and you get to learn more about her.
On the flip side...don’t talk too much about yourself, unless she asks something. If you never bring yourself up and she never asks anything, that can be a good indicator on a date with little potential for the future.
Most guys go into dates trying to figure out what they can get from the lady, be it physical pleasure or look good in public or whatever. It is a completely wrong attitude...your goal should be for her to have a better time than you do. (And if that happens, you should also end up having a good time.)
I’m also not a fan of movies for dates because it eliminates conversation. If you can go grab a burger afterwards and talk about the movie and other things, that helps.
Finally, be yourself. If she doesn’t like who you are...it will end eventually. No point in trying to hide it at the beginning.
It’s never too early to break up.
Good advice from most of you. Kyle is an amazing person. Smart (straight A’s) Talented (plays trumpet, french horn, and piano.. mostly classical music) He’s handsome and he stayed nice when he became a teenager.