The 800-pound gorilla in this room is the unspoken fact that the woman generally considers the house her “territory”, even if the man pays for everything. I would imagine that women who treat their men like “wallets” or “cash cows” don’t have very helpful husbands. What goes around comes around; that door swings both ways.
robert108 - 03:03pm on 03/07/2008
Yeah, attitudes like that are a mood killer, too, but thankfully most couples learn to advance beyond pre-school maturity and learn to share that which they’ve put together.
Bike Bubba - 03:03pm on 03/07/2008
So, what do you get for taking out the trash?
robert108 - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
Bike Bubba, re: STD’s and paternity suits--both problems solved by our friend, the “Jimmy Hat” (condom).
re: Housework--I have a cleaning lady. They are surprisingly affordable when not sharing your paycheck with 1 or more other people.
And one other reason to stay single (maybe the most important): There is no 50% ‘tax’ on your assets and secondary ‘tax’ on large chunk of your future earnings if (when?) things don’t work out.
BTW, I’m being somewhat facetious and definitely not trying to ‘diss’ the whole institution of marriage. It certainly works well for many.
Alas, not so well for others (including me, of course--lifelong ‘happy single guy’.
Happy Single Guy - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
108, the first thing I get for taking out the trash is a house without festering trash in it. Isn’t that enough? If that were not enough, I also make sure that my family doesn’t get sick from festering trash.
And finally, yes, it probably helps my wife’s mood, and yes, that does help the chances that we will “be one flesh,” as Genesis says. Again, festering trash and a tired wife don’t exactly get anyone into the mood.
I shudder, however, to think that the ordinary give and take of any relationship should be seriously compared to soliciting a hooker.
HSG, a CDC study found that condoms were only effective at reducing the transmission rate of one STD of the 28 that are known to medicine. It’s a biggie--HIV--but the rest of them can be pretty nasty, too. You may be a carrier and not even know it--those young ladies now getting cervical cancer are not exactly thankful, to put it mildly.
Bike Bubba - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
I figure an hour at work is worth and hour of housework which is worth an hour of running the kids around which is worth an hour of working around the yard.
The Whistler - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
I’m still working on selling the idea that an hour of blogging fits in there as well.
The Whistler - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
108, the first thing I get for taking out the trash is a house without festering trash in it. Isn’t that enough? If that were not enough, I also make sure that my family doesn’t get sick from festering trash.
You only have those two choices? You have my sympathy.
I’m not the one who made an equivalence between the man doing housework and him getting sex; the article did. I just called it what it is. I hope you don’t have that kind of relationship; no man deserves that.
robert108 - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
Where the hell is that f#$@ing vacuum?
Wing Chun Geologist - 04:03pm on 03/07/2008
What goes around comes around; that door swings both ways.
I will have to agree, robert108. Although, I am not sure if I am agreeing with your specifics, I believe in the concept of it works both ways. Even though it may not always seem fair .. in the long run if you tally the equation of a relationship, most will discover it’s exceptionally balanced.
The 800-pound gorilla in this room is the unspoken fact that the woman generally considers the house her “territory”, even if the man pays for everything. I would imagine that women who treat their men like “wallets” or “cash cows” don’t have very helpful husbands. What goes around comes around; that door swings both ways.
Yeah, attitudes like that are a mood killer, too, but thankfully most couples learn to advance beyond pre-school maturity and learn to share that which they’ve put together.
So, what do you get for taking out the trash?
Bike Bubba, re: STD’s and paternity suits--both problems solved by our friend, the “Jimmy Hat” (condom).
re: Housework--I have a cleaning lady. They are surprisingly affordable when not sharing your paycheck with 1 or more other people.
And one other reason to stay single (maybe the most important): There is no 50% ‘tax’ on your assets and secondary ‘tax’ on large chunk of your future earnings if (when?) things don’t work out.
BTW, I’m being somewhat facetious and definitely not trying to ‘diss’ the whole institution of marriage. It certainly works well for many.
Alas, not so well for others (including me, of course--lifelong ‘happy single guy’
.
108, the first thing I get for taking out the trash is a house without festering trash in it. Isn’t that enough? If that were not enough, I also make sure that my family doesn’t get sick from festering trash.
And finally, yes, it probably helps my wife’s mood, and yes, that does help the chances that we will “be one flesh,” as Genesis says. Again, festering trash and a tired wife don’t exactly get anyone into the mood.
I shudder, however, to think that the ordinary give and take of any relationship should be seriously compared to soliciting a hooker.
HSG, a CDC study found that condoms were only effective at reducing the transmission rate of one STD of the 28 that are known to medicine. It’s a biggie--HIV--but the rest of them can be pretty nasty, too. You may be a carrier and not even know it--those young ladies now getting cervical cancer are not exactly thankful, to put it mildly.
I figure an hour at work is worth and hour of housework which is worth an hour of running the kids around which is worth an hour of working around the yard.
I’m still working on selling the idea that an hour of blogging fits in there as well.
You only have those two choices? You have my sympathy.
I’m not the one who made an equivalence between the man doing housework and him getting sex; the article did. I just called it what it is. I hope you don’t have that kind of relationship; no man deserves that.
Where the hell is that f#$@ing vacuum?
I will have to agree, robert108. Although, I am not sure if I am agreeing with your specifics, I believe in the concept of it works both ways. Even though it may not always seem fair .. in the long run if you tally the equation of a relationship, most will discover it’s exceptionally balanced.