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Monday, March 27, 2006

Father’s Rights Book Banned In Massachusetts?

Father's right's advocate Kevin Thompson recently released a book entitled Exposing the Corruption in the Massachusetts Family Courts. Unfortunately that book has now been impounded by an order from a family law judge involved with Mr. Thompson's divorce/custody case.

Today by mail, I received notice that my recently released book, “Exposing the Corruption in the Massachusetts Family Courts” was officially banned. I received an Order of Impoundment and a Temporary Restraining Order. My custody case and a DSS report, which substantiate the crimes that I have experienced, was impounded until 2021.

Manzi’s rationale is that “impoundment is necessary to protect the best interests including the privacy interests of the parties’ minor child.

Comment: What privacy interests of my son have been compromised and whose interests are being protected other than the self-serving interests of Judge Manzi, Judge Digangi, and the three judges in appeals court who don’t want their crimes to be exposed?

Manzi’s second argument is that “no harm will be caused to the community interest by impounding this file.”

Comment: No community interest is harmed other than the community’s right to scrutinize the judiciary, hold it accountable, and prevent from happening the concealed crimes committed against fathers and children every day in family court for profit.


I am not at all familiar with this case and it is worth mentioning that the above description of events is Mr. Thompson's version, but still it sounds pretty fishy to me.

Jeff Goldstein has more, including this spot-on comment:

Interesting that the “banning” of the book is tied to privacy rights of a child—you don’t, for instance (and perhaps this is a bad analogy) see such concerns evident in movie of the week versions of little girls in Utah who are abducted and later found with bearded crazies in Utah—so one aspect of this story I’d like to ask about (particularly those with experience either in law or in the family courts) is does this injunction make legal sense?


You'd think the fact that Mr. Thompson is writing about his own son thus should be able to weigh the privacy considerations at play here.

This from a recent Phyllis Schlafly column (via The Whistler in the comments to my earlier father's rights post) is also worth noting:

When a married couple with children is divorced, the family court typically renames the husband and wife as noncustodial and custodial parents. The more time with the children that is awarded to the custodial parent, the more money the noncustodial parent is ordered to pay and then can be reported by the state as collections that merit federal bonuses.

Federal funding thus provides powerful monetary incentives for states to maximize the number of single-parent households with high transfer payments, and to minimize equal child custody which would lessen transfer payments. Depriving or reducing children's access to one parent is thus a source of revenue for states.

These incentives drive family court discretion and skew the opinions of the vast army of lawyers, psychologists, custody evaluators, and parenting counselors who are used to rationalize the process. They hide their predetermined custody rulings under the subjective slogan "the best interest of the child."

Put another way, forcibly depriving children of access to one parent, usually the father because he usually has a higher income than the mother, is a big source of revenue to states. The more support orders that are issued, the higher they are, and the more fathers who are threatened with jail and suspension of their driver's and professional licenses for challenging the system, the better chance a state will receive more money from the federal government.


Kind if sickening, isn't it?

Read the whole thing.

Comments

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I’ll post the same comment here as I posted at proteinwisdom (sorry for being cheesy, but my "the internets" time is somewhat limited):

He should appeal to the Supreme Court of Mass. State supreme courts will and do hear cases out of family courts and overturn the decisions fairly often (at least, here in New Hampshire they do)--which maybe accounts for the fact that SCOTUS hasn’t been hearing a lot of custody cases: they get resolved in appeal at the state level.

My amature opinion of what’s wrong with family court and law:
1} It’s not held to the same standard as criminal law. In criminal court if I accuse someone of a crime, I have to be able to prove the charge I make--the defendant’s innocence is presumed. However, in family court if I accuse someone of some sort of wrong-doing (abuse, drug use, etc), it’s up to the defendant to prove that they are innocent--innocence isn’t truly presumed with the practical effect of women all too often playing the victim card, whether they are really a victim or not.

2} There is no right to an attorney as there is in criminal court. If you don’t have lots of money or a good understanding of the law, you most likely won’t come out well after a visit to family court. This works against both men and women.

3}There is no trial by jury--so one bad/prejudiced judge/master (see #4, below) can result in a very bad and very binding decision.

4} Family court in some (most? all?) states has “marital masters”, who aren’t really judges and aren’t trained in jurisprudence to the same standard as a judge. So going to family court is often like buying a ticket to a major leage game only to see little league take the field.

Seth Williams on March 27, 2006 at 01:53 pm
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Ironically, the impoundment of the book illustrates brilliantly what is wrong with family law.  Begin with a "preponderance of evidence" standard (or, as Robert108 notes, "the ex-wife is always right"wink, continue to deprive a man of his rights of fatherhood, seal the evidence, and then impound a book which dares to violate the court order sealing the proceedings.

Now what the author can do is slightly modify his book to not refer to the actual case, but rather the proceedings which banned his first book.

Robert Perry on March 27, 2006 at 01:55 pm
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...or modify the book enough that it plausibly (I’m sure I spelled that wrong) doesn’t refer to his case specifically.

Seth Williams on March 27, 2006 at 02:00 pm
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Convert the book to PDF and post it on numerous websites around the world.  Sure, no one will make any money, but the Massachusetts family courts don’t have any jurisdiction in other countries. Plus I’m sure it would really piss them off.

Steve on March 27, 2006 at 03:15 pm
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The book must be burned. 

The Whistler on March 27, 2006 at 03:26 pm
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You can grab a copy of the PDF at:

http://www.lulu.com/content/198514 

Andy on March 27, 2006 at 04:34 pm
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Did that Shifer article really say that a state gets Federal funding ("bonuses" ??) simply because they got someone to owe another someone money?  WhY?  What is the listed reason for this?

If the state can claim they maintain the highways through their state tehn teh Fed may be inclined to give tehm some help, sure.  If the state can prove that the father is blowing off his payments, then the mother should get her money from somewhere, enter the Fed (I suppose). 

But to get bonuses simply for assigning the award?  Is there a simple explanation for this?   Or did I miss something?  Thanks.

Tom_with_a_Dream on March 27, 2006 at 05:58 pm
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Oh, and I never tire of reading about Jay Tea’s Massholes over at another blog

Tom_with_a_Dream on March 27, 2006 at 06:00 pm
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I have to say Seth is dead on here with the appelate thing. In my situation we had a judge that clearly had his mind made up before we walked in the door and as I stated earlier (another post) statement in open court, that maybe he was old fashioned but he just thinks kids belong with their mother’s. This judge then basically dared my attorney to appeal when she pointed out statute in Arizona that states that gender can not be used for the basis of judgement. Not only was he overturned but the appelate court ordered that another judge hear the case.

The two things I learned from this experience is that the family courts are out of control and very few understand how they work, I thoroughly believe that more than half of the decisions made in family court in almost any state would be overturned on appeal, at least it did in my case and my brother both in Arizona and because in both cases the judge let gender weigh heavily in their decisions.

Second always no matter what the cost have a court reporter in the court room. In my case we had to pay for it annd it was worth every penny the appealate opinion in my situation was based almost entirely on the review what the judge said and what my ex said on the stand.

In the book case I am almost positive that this is not in the perview of the family courts. 

richard on March 28, 2006 at 04:35 am
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If anyone here has a copy, or is willing to give me a copy of this book,  

Please email me this book. I would love to read it.

"Corruption in Massachusetts Family courts"

 

I am presently going to court having to fight false claims of abuse here in Ottawa.

Bryan Latreille on March 29, 2006 at 10:12 pm
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If anyone can copy me on the book "Corruption in Massachusetts Family courts" I will be greatly appreciative. I am going through this same thing right now in the great friggin state of Mass, I am also writhing a book for the very same reason Kevin did. I am appalled by what I am going through and what from my experience many if not a vast majority of fathers go through in not only this state but nation wide; its all because of the STANDARD PRACTICE of false allegations of everything from child neglect to abuse and the money that follows! I could elaborate on this much more however I am sure many of you already know what I am talking about.
MA, to preserve it’s death grip on fathers and federal assisted money will allow a woman to keep sole physical and legal custody of a child even after proving the use of  "crack"  She, exposing myself and my children to this horrific substance, "I proved this in court"!! the Courts will and have ensured at any cost especially against the best interest of a child to keep children under a less than healthy environment to promote “there own” meaning the mothers and the states financial interests no matter the cost to the fathers. This is not limited to the monetary cost, the courts will do this despite the fact that I can and would provide a loving safe home and healthy environment for my children at any cost to myself.  Let them Bann my book too and let’s see just how much publicity this has. I agree with Kevin this Mass family court system is noting short of a criminal enterprise fostering nothing but the best interest monetarily of the state and encouraging continued oppression of fathers rights, most importantly destroying relationships between fathers and children to promote there own corruption. Along the way and right behind them all the way  are the women,  right behind them are the women’s right groups all of which are hiding behind the phrase “The best interest of the children” to line there pockets with money. This who thing makes me want to vomit!!!

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Accused_Dad on April 3, 2006 at 10:05 am
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If anyone can copy me on the book "Corruption in Massachusetts Family courts" I will be greatly appreciative. I am going through this same thing right now in the great friggin state of Mass, I am also writhing a book for the very same reason Kevin did. I am appalled by what I am going through and what from my experience many if not a vast majority of fathers go through in not only this state but nation wide; its all because of the STANDARD PRACTICE of false allegations of everything from child neglect to abuse and the money that follows! I could elaborate on this much more however I am sure many of you already know what I am talking about.
MA, to preserve it’s death grip on fathers and federal assisted money will allow a woman to keep sole physical and legal custody of a child even after proving the use of  "crack"  She, exposing myself and my children to this horrific substance, "I proved this in court"!! the Courts will and have ensured at any cost especially against the best interest of a child to keep children under a less than healthy environment to promote “there own” meaning the mothers and the states financial interests no matter the cost to the fathers. This is not limited to the monetary cost, the courts will do this despite the fact that I can and would provide a loving safe home and healthy environment for my children at any cost to myself.  Let them Bann my book too and let’s see just how much publicity this has. I agree with Kevin this Mass family court system is noting short of a criminal enterprise fostering nothing but the best interest monetarily of the state and encouraging continued oppression of fathers rights, most importantly destroying relationships between fathers and children to promote there own corruption. Along the way and right behind them all the way  are the women,  right behind them are the women’s right groups all of which are hiding behind the phrase “The best interest of the children” to line there pockets with money. This who thing makes me want to vomit!!!

keith on April 3, 2006 at 10:31 am
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Kevin sells the book through Lulu.com in PDF (downloadable) for under $10.00 I bought it and it relived a lot of my pain of being treated like a criminal in the Mass Family Extorcian System  Unfortunatley Until all fathers unite under one common banner proclaim enough is enough go on strike and put this system out of buisness. (Make sure you continue to directly support your children) refuse to go to court,dont resist arrest overload the system get the worlds attention write books pamphlets organise. the women did and now look at the feminist justice you get. I really shouldn’t lecture I knuckled under  when I couldn’t afford to go to appelate court. But now Im retired done paying live in another state and will be in court with Kevin Thompson on April 19

Daniel ONeil on April 4, 2006 at 04:25 am
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Great book about time! We need to start righting more books. I would not belive my own story if I where to write it down. Middleclass males are being desenfrachized from socity. Fathers are being hunted into extinction

Karmjet on April 4, 2006 at 08:34 pm
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You could make the case that divorced fathers are being hunted, but I would state (with experience) that still-married-and-working-through fathers are not being hunted, at least not with the same success rate. 

Not to imply that there aren’t some siutuations that are genuinely unreconcilable, but I believe that America has bred a father (and mother) species that wants to "solve" their problem as quickly as possible and is unwilling to experience delayed gratitfication. 

Note the parallel in Americans buying habits, political habits, and many other habits.  Not willing to wait to do things correctly, just quickly…  

Tom_with_a_Dream on April 7, 2006 at 07:36 am
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I just sent this to Mr. Graham at FM96.9 FMTALK Radio. Join me in this effort lets get herd…

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=96.9+FMTALK

 

 

Mr. Graham,

 

I would like to say that I am writing you to express great things happening in this world, unfortunately I am unable to see through the dogma I have been facing in the past 6 months. I am asking something of you that seems no one within the media will to touch in the entire state of Massachusetts and moreover from what I am gathering this also includes any national coverage as well.

 

What I am referring to be direct is “Fathers Parental Rights” in this sate and many states throughout our great country. I need to say that I am a lone entity not affiliated with any group or organization though I have used sights such as Father and Families, Fathers for life, ANCPR, and many other some of which I have added links for listed below to gather information and to learn of what my child’s fate and my own may untimely end up.

 

http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/site/index.php

http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org/

http://www.ancpr.org/blog/

http://www.fathersforlife.org/divorce/kruk22.htm

 

I have had the granted privilege by a Cambridge family court judge of visiting my own child for 21 days in the past 6 months, with the added bonus of becoming a paycheck to the mother of our daughter “intentionally remitting her name at this point” Originally I sought and was granted a restraining order on the mother on behalf of our daughter because I found out that my ex was smoking crack on a frequent bases. I was granted temporary custody of our daughter only to have my restraining order overturned and subsequently lost all physical and legal custody of my daughter base on the mother lying and persistent accusation brought forth in the first hearing. Oh almost forgot, one of the reasons why I lost complete legal and physical custody was because I worked full time and my daughters mother didn’t therefore she could stay home and watch her where I would have had to put her into daycare. Now, I am a plaintiff in this case and I have been basically on trial every sense the first hearing when all of my constitutionally protected rights as a parent where removed by a judge without due process or cause.

 

I personally have been accused of everything from being a drug dealer to an abusive person both to the children and to my ex. Nothing has been brought forward to corroborate these vicious and insidious accusations however, it has been effective in clouding the issue for six months and I have yet to be able to even accomplish anything other than the original order. I might add that nothing that my ex has accused me of is true. I am a loving caring father; I still have my oldest two children who live full time with me from my previous marriage. My daughter 11 and honor roll student and my son 9 an awesome kid who happens to have autism, yet is accomplishing great things every day!! I have every other weekend and pay out 33% plus of my net income for my effort to ensure the safety and well being of our daughter who is now 2.

 

Mr. Graham this is only the tip of the Ice burg, this case is as ugly as it could possibly be and I would very much like to discuss all of this with you if you would be wiling to listen. For the sake of being as brief and to the point as possible, I am not the only one in this position. Thousands if not millions of Father Nation wide are facing this same treatment from the family court systems. We are being falsely accuse of horrendous crimes without the need to prove anything or even the ability to defend ourselves from this all to common practice by mothers who feel that the best ting for there children is to attempt and in many cases destroy men’s lives for there own benefits.

 

To use the term “Destroy Fathers and men’s lives” is putting it mildly as fare to many men faced with this horrific reality in this country are choosing to end the intense suffering cause by egregious mothers by committing suicide. In my opinion they have been murdered by there ex wives and the mothers of there children and the court systems are assisting in this effort daily, they are all doing this under the guise that what they are doing is in the best interest of the children, the fathers in many of these cases are desperately only attempting to do what they are supposed to be doing, RASING AND CARING FOR THERE CHILDREN.

 

The immigration rally was a huge success and I am happy to see that such an enormous turnout has affected the decision and policy makers.

 

 There is another battle that deserves as much if not more attention yet is being ignored by at least half the population being waged in this country, a closed door personal and individual battle, a battle that is undermining the constitutional rights of every man in this country! A battle that is creating a whole new generation of fatherless homes with children whom are being punished and striped of there rights as people to spend time and learn from loving fathers. This battle isn’t being waged on a battle field in the sand or on our borders though father who fighting for this country and any man who brings a child into this world living within our borders can and are being affected by this private war being wage on fathers.

 

 My rights as a father where completely stripped from me the first hearing I had trying to defend my daughter and children form an individual who was using dangerous and illegal substances in our home, I have been struggling for six months just to spend more time with our daughter and allow the children to all have time together only to be ignored and told to contact my ex’s attorney. I do not have the ability to know what my daughter is even doing on a daily bases and have had “0” success in my efforts to encourage a more beneficial and healthy resolution for all my children. My attempts where to ask for parental counseling, which was ignored and rebutted with them stating they wanted a parental agreement, two months passed despite our request to see the document they proposed, when we realized we were being ignored we finally drafted a parental agreement that any one would accept “I would be glad to show this to you”  and sent it to them, this was also ignored. We then put forward motions for getting two more days a month and a reconsideration of child support based on financial figures. This hearing was answered by trying to have my overnight visitation removed and claming that Grace was showing signs of separation anxiety!!! Thankfully this was not considered. I have been trying to focus in on what will be best for the children only to be attacked by my ex at every attempt to better the situation.  I have no idea what my daughter is doing to day and nor do many fathers who want disparately to be a part of there children’s lives. I am talking about a child I love with everything that I am yet right now I have not even the right or ability to know anything about my child’s life.

 

Discriminations against fathers are happening every day, it doesn’t matter what color size or shape a man is they are at risk. Men’s constitutionally granted rights are being trampled on in 90% plus percent of the time and gender biased is the law of the land this is a putrid reality and this is not just fairy tail numbers, it is the truth and I for one stand as a testament to it’s occurrence.

 

It takes no effort to find the problem other than opening ones eyes as to what is happening in our family court systems here in Massachusetts. Yet the cover-up continues from the top down, legislators, congressmen, and yes even the superior courts are backing this one up there is not check and balances in this system and judges are making law directly from the bench every day, only to be backed up by the system that is doing the covering up. This is all happening because of a court system that takes the word of a mother without proof of anything.

 

The system has run uncheck for far to long and women’s right groups such as NOW are consistently using misleading statistical information and scare tactics to persuade lawmakers to continue and strip men of there rights as father, women’s rights groups have become militant in there efforts to ensure that men’s rights do not have a place in our family courts. Misleading information pointed testimony and criminal behavior is the rule of law, a circus of law if you will because in today’s family court system here in MA there is a hanging jury waiting for any man that walks into a family court room in this state, if you don’t believe me then do some poking around yourself.

 

This atrocity needs to be dragged into the light of day and stopped before it harms any other children in the common wealth of MA. Parents men or women have basic rights we are all supposed to have been granted by birth into the great country, and both have obligation to there children that they are not supposed to falter from nor be forcibly removed from except for extreme circumstances. I believe this and so do many other men. The problem here is that somewhere along the line men lost there right to be fathers and women made it a practice to degrade bash and take the very rights away from men that women have fought for, for so very long.

 

Please, no I beg of you to consider this a topic of discussion, it is an outrage and defiles everything that this country stands for. The worst of all that I have said here is that it is directly punishing the innocent children that didn’t asked for any of it and deserve much much more than they are receiving, but in turn have no other choice but to live in the reality that in so many cases there own mother and the family court system here in Massachusetts order.

 

Is this really in the children’s best interest, or have I completely messed something important.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read my plea for help in this matter. I am not sure anything done here will help my situation, however, It is my hope that by bringing this out into the public mind’s eye it will have some affect and promote change to occur before the next child has to be forced into waking up without a father who want nothing more than to be there for his children to simply say good morning when there eyes open.

 

EXPOSING THE CORRUPTION IN THE MASSACHUSETTS FAMILY COURTS

 

Sincerely

Keith Mochida and Family

Keith Mochida on April 7, 2006 at 12:04 pm
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Looking for a copy of the book for my son who is a single dad trying to get custody of his son from a horrific situation through Hampden County Probate Court in Springfield, MA.  After lots of time, money courts seem content to allow situation to continue, because child isn’t harmed to the point of irreperable harm.

Please email me off list to let me know how we can obtain a copy of this book.

asmith on June 8, 2006 at 06:55 pm
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It’s true.  The legal system in Massachusetts is gender biased.  Luckily for me, my father is a divorce attorney in Massachusetts.  My divorce was civil.  I have joint legal and physical custody of my 4 year old son.  I do not pay child support or alimony.  I did not have to give my ex wife any part of my retirement accounts.  My ex paid me a fair share of the equity in the house that we lived in. 

But most guys aren’t so lucky.  The child support calculation in Massachusetts is outrageous.  $1200/mo for one kid?  Come on, how much does a little kid eat?  By the way, if you show up in court without a lawyer, you are going to lose. 

Judges actually don’t want to decide anything.  Negotiate as much as possible (with your ex) before going to court.  Don’t expect the Judge to help you.  Judges are more like administrators.

Todd Brenner on June 15, 2006 at 10:46 am
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I don’t know how you feel about this idea, but if you want to create a design online for protest shirts, posters and such, it’s pretty easy to create them at http://www.cafepress.com.

I got fed up with the family court corruption and created a shop on CafePress.com with clothing and things that say “American Family Courts - Proudly beating up the faithful and their children since 1970”.  It’s not a great design, but you can see it at http://www.cafepress.com/afc_beating.

You can get free stores or stores you pay for which have more features, but it can be really hard to make sales outside your group sometimes, so it might not be worth the cost of the store even though it is quite small.  I paid for a store like that for awhile but I found it hard to justify the cost and went back to using the free ones.  After all, they’re making money off of the stores themselves anyway.

Dan on June 20, 2006 at 04:38 pm
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The suffolk judge are criminals..
Judge Merrill- should be jailed, permantly
Judge Gould Should be dragged off the bench
Judge Stanlin should be raped in prison (but he’d like that).
All of these Judged run circus courts that favor the mother so much you had to be there to believe it. They violated my rights so many times that that it proves the system is fixed against father’s. But, remember these are fuxking loser liberals. Probabaly all gay, stalin is. Merrill is and Gould is . They appoint liberal GAl’s except for Laura Studen who was excellent, or should I say just fair.
Julie Ginsburg is without a brain and so biased that it was amazing. piece of shit. beware of her. Oh yeah see over-bills, and had so much proof the mother violated agreement and was brainwashing our child that see left it all out.
Judge Merrill called my contempt frivilous, 38 violations of the seperation agreement, (mother told daughter away for my thanksgiving, christmas, holidays, did not alow vistation to take place because of family events, never made up a minute. Had the police at my home of father’s day, becuase I won’t share it with he husband also while on my weekend. 38 violations, made me pay her legal bill and sentance me to jail for no paying it.
Merrill ammended my seperation agreement taking way joint legal custody, overnights, holidays. Would not lower child support even though the mother makes more money than I do. All this can be verifed.
I saw Judge Merrill give joint custody to a boy mother’s that was a herion addict, prostitute in the home when the boy was there and dealt drugs out of the home( ALL PROVEN BY DSS, police) and the father was a saint. the junkie could hardly say her name of sit up in court with her two court appointed lawyer from hale and Dorr. She said well the boy almost 18 now and can do what he wants then, he was 16. Oh yeah also known asinternet Judge, he husband practice divorce law in MA, what a joke.


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Rob on June 22, 2006 at 05:17 am
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Folks there needs to be an awakening. We must unite, and not allow this cruelty, abuse, and evil go one step further. I have shared custody, for nearly ten years of two beautiful children, ages, 16, and 13. My ex-wife has terrorized the younger, my son against me, and he has not returned in ninetey days. The Judge could not even find in contempt; let alone a finding of custodial interference.

E-mail me.  I believe tomorrow I will write Brian McGrory at the Globe.

Thank you very kindly,

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Jon Myers on June 23, 2006 at 11:35 am
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Tried the link posted by Andy on 3/27/06 (http://www.lulu.com/content/198514) and it says Item not available. Is it online ANYWHERE? Could a Mass court have that great a reach?

Carter on July 3, 2006 at 06:38 am
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While I have been a victim, my children have been the real losers in the corruption and discrimination that goes on in the family courts in Massachusetts. Three cheers for Kevin Thompson,the fact that the apparently dishonorable Judge Manzi has tried to have this book banned ,tells it all.There are other “Judge Manz’s “ in the system who must be exposed and “dethroned”. Believe me ,I have been in this fight for nearly 10 years....and it continues today. For those of you who are still searching for this book, note that I just ordered it from Boarders.  Take care and good to you all....both nothers and fathers who find themselfs staning in fron of these obtuse, arragant, so called Judges.

Tom Peters on July 9, 2006 at 06:37 am
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Let us get organized. I have had shared legal and physical custody for nearly ten years. Now with a new judge who started to steamroll me; my ex-wife has kept my son, age 13 in particular for 105 days from our week-to-week parenting schedule: Kidnapped in essence. She is using something called Parental Alienation Syndrome. Look it up. She is now also alienating my daughter, age 16. I have been before a Cambridge judge six times, and he refuses to hold her in contempt. Write back.

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jon on July 9, 2006 at 07:44 am
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The plane and simple truth here Gentlemen, is simply, The Massachusetts Family Court System has established laws and practices that support everything that I am reading and have come to understand about this process. It is “CLEAR” the idealistic notion and the mantra spewed from every corner of this judicial bodies actions has brought this state one step closer to mayhem and the destruction of the concept of the “nuclear family”, this court claims it is working under the what they call ‘the best interest of the children’ and is blatantly flaunting it’s unalienable power over ‘non-custodial’ parents both men and woman. The attorneys pressing and using these laws and issues falsely know that the laws have been put in place to favor the mother no matter the circumstances or how reckless a parent they may be. No actions or shortcomings of a mother will be taken seriously or recognized by this court system, no matter how serious the nature of the issues that many mothers posses, the blame without question or rebuttal will be immediately and irrevocably placed squarely of the fathers shoulders without proof or the supposed first amendments rights of due process of any kind unless the father has to pay out money in order to proceed. The excuses used in court that follow these flagrantly abused laws allow Judges and the Family Court System as a whole to shield themselves and hide behind the laws that have been established to basically eliminate fathers from their children’s lives, many of these have been lobbied for and pushed down the legislative branches and other lawmakers gullets to enforce the feminist groups point of view and private agendas.

I am tired of hearing about the plight of women and mothers in today’s society; I am tired of hearing how difficult it is on mothers, try it from a father point of view then sit down a shut up. It is NOT my responsibility nor will it ever be to be forced to suffer injustice at someone else’s ideal of a utopian society. The women are as responsible for their satiations as the men are! If you don’t like this statement then you need to get a life of your own. With all the women’s help centers and domestic violence centers established by states and feminist groups, I am surprised there isn’t a swat teem on hand to shoot “suspected” abusers in their tracks, in fact it wouldn’t surprise me if this was something being considered and I am I’m sure the feminist groups are working on that one already. That’s all there is to it folks! I understand that there are societal problems that need to be addressed however, the current situation is HARMING, “I use this word intentionally” many more children than are being helped. What is worse; is that the women using these lopsided laws in their favor are in far to many cases are intentionally manipulating the Court System across this country to achieve the results “they” want and are willing to accomplish at any cost to the fathers as well their own children, ultimately in many cases eliminating men from the equation save for their money and the women’s power over the them.

As for the women’s/feminist groups like NOW and their continuing efforts to affectively squash one sex over another, I say this. ‘YOU ALL’ better start getting your facts together and straight; get ready to bring your men hating lopsided statistical data to the table with real proof and prove your claims without your banter and falsely support statistics lies, because your drum beating and flagrant accusations are about to be exposed for what they are. It is only a matter of time. It makes me sick to think that these women/feminist groups are either incapable of understanding what they are trying to accomplish in society today; or worse, this is not to mention that there is the possibility that women and feminist groups are accomplishing this ‘possibly with the understanding’ and knowledge that what they are trying to do is actually harming children and society as a whole only to further there own private vindictive agendas! I also would place the Family Court Systems in this country on the same side as the last sentence.

We have to face the facts of what is happening. Unscrupulous women and feminist groups want to go to WAR! These parties do not care what the results of there efforts are or how much they hurt the children in the middle as long as they get what they want “the money and the power over men”. I have listened to the banter for so long I can’t listen any longer. Women and feminist groups openly claim they want men to step up and do their part as parents, well this is a very true statement and ‘MANY’ men want to do nothing less for there children, however, unless the “men of course” want to do anything beyond being a pay check “stepping up” to the childrens mothers or if a man asks to gain custody of his children to ensure they are raised in a good home with a solid moral foundation, he is automatically labeled a trouble maker and controlling by both of these parties and the Family Courts they are forced to face, if a man demands equal time then he is being unreasonable and trying to get out of the lobbied for, by women and the feminist groups, laws surrounding child support. Can anyone see the pattern here? Women and these so called feminist lobbyist groups don’t want men to step up and be the parents so many of us men want to be, they want us to step up and lay down so they can walk on us, whats even worse they are using our children as pawns to accomplish their ideas and achieve what they want “to put it bluntly, their all looking for the money and their own private agendas which is the power over the men”, if we don’t comply they will force us too with the help of the Family Court System. Anything beyond this they YELL AND SCREAM ABUSE or something close to this because they can, with the laws in place today, with those same laws they can do this with “NO” accountability and in many cases no need to even prove there accusation and or heinous clams against the fathers of their children, they then can walk away scott free with everything, destroying fathers “The men incase your not following along” and affectively obliterating families in there wake with no remorse. Leaving in a majority of the time fathers left to pick up the pieces of there blown apart lives by the women they loved and the children they where ripped apart from and still care about very much, Nice thought isn’t it.

It doesn’t matter what we have to say, it doesn’t matter what we can prove, it doesn’t matter if we are good parents, stable and capable. IT JUST DOESN’T MATTER! The women, feminist groups and yes the courts have already made their minds up long before we “The Men” even step foot into the court room. This is a direct result of decades of antiquated thinking, feminist lobbying as well as many women affected by MMS (Malicious Mother Syndrome) a result of the problems a growing society faced and to a larger degree still faces today. The children are the losers in every one of these cases unless there is an amicable division of responsibility and cooperation. All that needs to happen is that one ‘person’ decides to make it difficult, one ‘person’ cries foul and I am not talking about a man, remember it just doesn’t matter what we men have to say, and the show begins. I say this because it is “what it is”, a show nothing more.

I know many men who are in this very situation and I keep hearing the same thing over and over again. It’s disheartening to say the least! I am facing pre-trial myself here on the 13th and expect that the “show will go on”. So far it hasn’t mattered one iota that I have proven everything I have brought forward, it doesn’t matter that the law has been and will continue to be broken “felony perjury” and two counts so far, do you think anything will come of this, think again! Of course if I had done anything like this I would writing this from jail!  It doesn’t matter that they have pushed “proven” ‘false evidence’ and have provided only a hostile environment for communication.  They have refused to communicate and attacked me for taking them to court to try and gain more “visitations”. Refused visitation just under the letter of the law so they can’t be held in contempt of court and the court has separated siblings without even the slights consideration as to what harm has been done by this action, this has all been done an more, I can and am willing to show this to anyone who so chooses to see it.

The simple fact remains, I do not believe that I am going to get any were with this other than to be able to tell our child that I did everything possible to try and bring her home and provide a solid moral foundation for her life.

So what to do, in my case I have no choice but to wait and see this trough patiently for just a short time until the final ruling comes down, just incase someone grows a conscious and I am successful to even the slights degree. I don’t want to piss off the judge before they cut off my head I would rather they not use a dull hatchet, however, once the gavel has sounded and the results are in. Again, what to do!

In truth there are many efforts being made on many fronts, however, without public awareness on this issue and a public out cry for the sake of the children and their suffering nothing we do will be affective, at least from my own knowledge nothing has been to a great degree other than small steps and minor concessions thus far. This is not to say that for example Fathers and Families have not made huge strides in trying to correct this outrage against fathers and non custodial parents alike. It is just my opinion but the Family Court System in MA for the most part is still operating under the same guidelines it has been for years and little has been accomplished to affect even the minor decisions that are being made by these courts.

Some of you have said “Let’s protest” Well If we protest we WILL go to jail if we broach even in the slighted into civil disobedience, do you think we are going to get a slap on the wrist sent home with a tidy fine when the judge finds out why we are protesting? The Spiderman in Europe escaped prison time because of a sympathetic jury, can any one here say that you know we will even get a fare hearing in an issue like this, especially if fathers in this Screw-Up backwards thinking state of Massachusetts got together and staged a protest like the one in Europe? DO any of you believe we wouldn’t go to prison! So I say this, it can be done we just have to find the individual willing to risk going to prison to shout out the message, be affective in a big way with out hurting anyone that forces public awareness of this situation and the actions being inflicted on good fathers and children alike, more importantly the disservice the Family Court System of MA and it’s supporting services are providing for all of our children under the guise of “the best interest of the children” .  JUST ONE could do it, anyone? There isn’t someone here willing to step forward? Someone who has lost almost everything because of the laws and or a woman who was hell bent on screwing him out of his life. Is there anyone here that would consider such an idea? Truth be told I do not believe that it would be very affective even if this where to happen “Remember it doesn’t matter what we men have to say we are all control freaks who only want to get out of paying child support remember” Not to mention we will immediately be labeled lunatics and out of control by the left wing with a stake in this to protect there jobs and lives. The mothers hand in hand with the feminist group will immediately file with The Family Courts who we all know to be fare and just, to take away any of our rights as a fathers because our protest and the Judges will apparently happily go along with it, oh maybe just for good measure and to keep us in line they will raise child support just to add a bit of icing to the cake for the mothers efforts, it only fare right? She did have to take time off of her busy schedule from cashing those payroll deductions from our check right.  Oh lets not forget that from our prison cells we will also be assed her attorneys fees because she was ‘forced’ to go into court and point just how crazy we really are. In fact it is even possible that in this Great State of Massachusetts, will sick the authorities on us simply shooting the person, make some lame excuse as to why they needed to do so and then media could run a tidy thirty second spot to explain it away so life would continue on as if nothing had happened.

So we are back to the same question, what can be done! It has been said we need to unite!  The problem is when the call is made only a few show up. It really doesn’t matter why they couldn’t be there at roll call the fact is men just aren’t showing up in great numbers for whatever reason whether is out of fear of the court or the financial burden they are in having had to take a second job in order to feed themselves on the change left over from outrageously high child support guidelines, who knows, we know one thing, the women taking every cent they can get there greedy hands on don’t give a damn.

It seems everybody wants to be a Chief and nobody wants to be an Indian. Please don’t get me wrong it’s understandable as everyone involved in a situation like this wants their situation to be noticed, the problem is that with this kind of thinking then nothing ever gets accomplished.

Lets take Kevin Thompson efforts as an example, I admire him greatly and applaud him for what he has been attempting to accomplish, the ACLU and other organizations such as Fathers and Families have rallied around him and that is great, the courts have affectively and illegally banned his book and the fight is on, but I have to ask the question; what has he been able to accomplish? With no offence intended, unfortunately Kevin has not accomplished a whole heck of a lot when it comes to the judicial correction of the problems we all face. Although I have to give credit where credit is due, in that Kevin has accomplished shedding at least some light on this subject and that’s what this whole thing needs,

TO BE DRAGED IT INTO THE LIGHT OF DAY, LET IT WHITHER AND DIE WHERE IT LAY.

Then on the other hand, because of Kevin’s attempts, now, the Family Court Systems ugly underbelly is now exposed and is showing its true colors. Unfortunately again, because this system has so isolated itself from the very people it was intended to serve there has been almost no repercussions based on these actions, at least up to this point, in part because of this whole process being isolated and self governing. The latest tactic being used against Kevin by the court so far is to try and keep this in family court, affectively keeping the ACUL and the big shot attorneys ready to do battle in Supreme Court at bay; further ensuring Kevin will be paying for more court fees and attorney fees all for what?  I’m curious; just how many laws have been bent or broken by this very process, the process the Family Judicial system is using!!!  The same system a court that Kevin is fighting against in order to keep him and this atrocity of justice as quiet as possible and as far from public view as possible.

We do still live in the UNITED STATES don’t we?

The days of angry mother having their way in court are numbered; the feminist groups will always have members it’s just in their nature to need to gather into groups, however, their power as a group and control over the laws of this society are also numbered. The court systems and the laws they have in place and use everyday are something that will only change with knowledge and public out cry. When a system is as self supporting and self governing as the MA Family Court system is, there is only one way to make true change. That is to dismantle the system entirely that has caused such great harm to so many, replace it with a judicial body and systems that are neither biased or has complete control over the people who come to ask for its help. Change the laws that this system is using to repress individuals e.g. Fathers and Children and replace it with a system that promotes responsibility on both parent’s mother and father not allowing one control over another’s live by using a child as a pawn. Let’s not forget here that no matter how much we struggle or are subjected to injustices as parents. Ultimately it is the children who are suffering in all this and until the children can be the real focus of these issues our society will find that the repercussions of its actions will continue to be felt for generations to come. 

This system is broken! The people who operate within it are refusing to acknowledge its shortcomings because jobs may be lost and there lives may be affected. I ask only this. When did a job become more important that individuals rights as parents, fathers and the children’s very lives that are being turned upside down by this choice. All this Because of angry unscrupulous mothers, a Judicial System Fighting to keep total control, a social service worker without the ability to separate personal social and political agendas from their work, or a group lobbying for laws that even they know are unjust and against every principal our country was founded on. I ask you, how low does a state, have to sync, before its people revolt in mass numbers! How oppressed do individuals have to feel before desperation become the only action available right or wrong, how many children have to suffer under the oppression of an Ill willed parent, court system or investigator before this DAMN STATE IS GOING TO WAKE UP! Someone needs to explain this to me because I see only the horror stories and very little of the success. Wake up people before this cancer that is spreading like wild fire drives our society to the brink of complete destruction, please. Our children our counting on us all, I for one do not want to be the one who let’s them down.

Keith M

Keith Mochida on July 10, 2006 at 01:18 pm
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The leftie family formula: The State owns the children, with the mothers as the caretakers.  Fathers get left in the cold.  Overthrow it or get used to it.

robert108 on July 10, 2006 at 01:37 pm
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Fathers are just supposed to send their paycheck to the mommies. (state and the real mom.)

Liberal utopia.

The Whistler on July 10, 2006 at 01:39 pm
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TW: True that.  In their eyes, Dad=checkbook is good social policy.

robert108 on July 10, 2006 at 01:47 pm
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All the better to feminize society, get those icky dads out of the house.

The Whistler on July 10, 2006 at 01:48 pm
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C;mon people are we men or mice? The key is to be assertive; without being angry. Anger tips the boat. I will be in Cambridge tomorrow for perhaps the eighth time in twelve weeks or so with Judge Donnelly. My ex-wife, after nine plus years of shared custody, is Parental Alienation Syndroming(PAS) aka kidnapping my beloved Sophie and Sammy. Tomorrow;s matter is some financial indescretion on her part. Stand with mem if you can please: It is the “Myers matter.”

Whatever.. let us organize now. Do not complain, do not cry now, as Al Davis said: “Just win baby.” Let’s get together now: You help me; I will help you!

Love,

Jon smilesmile

Jon Myers on July 10, 2006 at 07:58 pm
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Keith make sure there is a court reporter noting every word. Not all family courts require it. In my case that was the best money I ever spent. It took 11k and a year to get my kids back and had we not had the documentation of perjury and the judge clearly letting gender rule his decision I would still be fighting. Keep in mind that the appelate court does not work like the family court and that is where we must take these judges to task.

richard on July 11, 2006 at 04:25 am
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A break through. My ex-wife did not even show up for her contempt hearing. The Judge might consider a capias. The momentum is shifting. Two other fathers were speaking passionately in terms of seeing their children.

I have been encouraged to appeal from within the Court system, for the lack of contempt for my ex-wife for not returning our children. Stay in touch, please.

Jon smile

Jon on July 11, 2006 at 03:41 pm
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I cant find the book either.  If someone can point me to it… GREAT!

So I looked up Parental Alienation Syndrome.  Every teenager hates one or both parents at some point.  This “syndrome” seems like an irresponsible attempt to ignore the real situation our kids face everyday - they don’t have both of their parents in their lives.  The answer is easy.  The problem is… nobody wants to listen. 

That’s why we all have to keep talking, sharing and acting.  There is a tipping point for every change in our society.  I urge all of us to do something.  Talk to other divorced parents.  Urge them to speak out.  Don’t be fooled by all the government created groups with the goal of helping us be better fathers… Most of us are great fathers and tired of the presumption that we are not simply because we are men.  The statistics are there, our children need us.  This is epidemic in the US and everyone is hiding. 

I am the unfortunate victim of this machine and a great father.  It took me 16 months and $15k but I at least see my kids 25% of their lives now.  I’m still shooting for 50%

I for one along with the friends I pull in will continue to fight for our children.  These courts are just wrong.

Brian Moser on July 14, 2006 at 11:35 am
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Hi, I have been on the road, and a little groggy, so if slightly incoherent please forgive.

First of all, docdave, thank you for the reminder. I am like the turtle in the turtle and the hare. I have been at this ten years: My goal is full custody; I have had half, and full is far and away best for Sophie and Sam. As far as the recording etc. Richard and you are probably right. I am phenomenally focused on what I need to do, with some extras, and tapped out on the rest. I could use some help.

Second, Brian, with regard to PAS. Please continue the research. My ex-wife has kept my son from me for 115 days or so, when we have a week-to-week parenting schedule. Attorneys cannot believe the judge has allowed this. Research indicates, and my experience reveals her paranoia is creating deep-seated fears within Sophie and Sam, which she uses like barbs against me. Not only people who are going through this must know and stop it; but others as well. It is brainwashing; it is destructive to children. It is insidious.

My case is breaking the back of this thing, or at least pointing us in a positive direction as this thing does not have a back (lol). I need help. I may be on the road over the next several days, but may possibly be able to check in.

Keep the faith guys..

Love,

Jon smile

Docdave is right we need people in the court room.

jon on July 14, 2006 at 01:24 pm
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Parental rights have been challenged for the last two decades more than ever. Fathers rights, the rights of men and particularly white males have been trampled on from so many directions. Affirmative action and womens rights activists have seen to that. BUT, when it comes to parental rights, both parents in a divorce need to make every effort to allow the children both their parents.

Zsa Zsa on July 14, 2006 at 02:15 pm
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After hearing about this book a week or so ago I immediately call Boarders book store and ordered a copy...they took my order with a “no-problem” kind of attitude...only to have the store call me today telling me they are unablew to order this book for me....I am outraged at this...what is this country turning into....Many of you have written in your letters that we should get organized....lets do it....now !
Tom Peters June 14,2006

Tom Peters on July 14, 2006 at 02:38 pm
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Even if lulu is no longer selling, copies of this were sold at some point, apparently in pdf format on-line. That means that those purchasers have the power to keep this book alive by 1.) selling or giving copies or 2.) Posting the pdf on the web and providing a link. If anyone is in this position, this list would be a great place to let everyone know. BTW, I am not in divorce proceedings, custody battle, etc nor expect to be. I just want the Internet community to stick this book in this idiot Manzi’s face and let him/her/it know that censorship is no longer possible in the era of the Web. Good luck to all of you in your battles.

Carter on July 14, 2006 at 05:24 pm
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http://ca.geocities.com/dadsarepeople2/
This letter I wrote below is a letter I decided to write, to get positive feedback from, and all it seems to get me is negative attitudes from people. are people that bad in our society that every question is taken as a threat?

“Why is it that the only thing left for men to do to stop these woman from causing long term mental abuse to men and their children, is to just kill her????? Because apparently, the courts and the justice department don't seem to care for the fathers rights to his children. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<< Even the legal aid, discriminates against fathers. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< I have done everything I could think of, and yet, I was told by my lawyer that I will never get to a trial, because I don't have 20,000.00 to start with. Thats pathetic don't you think.<< So........rob a bank,and your going to jail, so thats out of the question, right....and you'll get more time for robbing a bank then you will for killing the mother too.<<<<<<<<<<<< So, I figure<<<<<<<<<<<<<< one way or another IF YOU WANT SOME SORT OF RESULTS, EITHER WAY, JAIL IS GOING TO HAPPEN...So WHY NOT JUST KILL HER? Problem solved, and you'll be able to watch your children grow. I am left with this question<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< If theres a better solution to this growing problem, please.....I am all ears....I would like to know how a father can actually be heard, and our rights can be exersised".<<<<<<<<<<<

This letter was used against me in court to have supervised visits now handled by the childrens aid society....
How pathetic is that????
This letter was only to ask why some men feel its easier to kill their loved ones when in a heated court battle between a once loving couple.I have seen in the news over the last 5 months that a few fathers had decided to kill their ex spouce. all were going through a custody battle at the time or lost in a battle not long before the killings took place.
All I wanted was positive feedback, but all I got was negative remarks and now people are scared to say things because someone will interpret whats said as a threat of one sort or another...

Bryan on July 14, 2006 at 08:44 pm
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Well Bryan. Let me say this the only way to defeat this monster is to act appropriately, legally, assertively,peacefully and compassionately. I will only associate myself with people and actions, that can carry this out.

Substanitively, as docdave, richard, keith, and even zsa zsa write, we are correct. There must be strength and determination to follow through. Appropriate protesting for instance, is as American as apple pie. Getting out a banned book, has historic roots. Violence is out!!

I will give this group, a day, or two maybe three to sort this out, or sadly I will have to go.

Thanks,

Jon smile

jon on July 15, 2006 at 03:49 am
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Jon, July 25th comments “Violence is out”. A commendable philosophy, Jon, and one that we should hope to see achieved. There is a salient point that you overlook here, however: the state is rooted in violence. These so-called “courts” enforce their rulings through violence or threat of violence. The state claims a monopoly over the initiation of force. As long as you accept that precept, you can’t really complain when it’s turned against you. The only solution is to hold the state’s actors to exactly the same standard as so-called ‘private’ citizens. I’m still waiting for someone to produce the book that this thread was started over, however.

Carter on July 15, 2006 at 05:12 am
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Respectfully group, I must walk away at this point. The anonymous e-mail about the state’s actions being rooted in violence, or threat of violence maybe true. That does not allow me to respond in violence. MLK, Ghandi, espoused non-violence; I will too. Winning actions will be determined, assertive, calm, and non-violent.

At this point, with all due respect, group, I send you love, and move along.

Jon smile

jon on July 17, 2006 at 07:26 am
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Jon, or anyone else reading here:
The point was not to respond with violence but to de-legitimatize the state’s use of violence. As long as people accept the ‘rightness’ of state-sponsored violence and differentiate between state actions and any other group of thugs, politicians will not care what else we say or do. Education is the key, and it begins at home.

Carter on July 17, 2006 at 12:08 pm
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Hi Carter,

Well I am glad, I took one more look ,because I originally said, I would give up to three days. Violence is out; appropriate breaking of the law is not always out. Actually I recently visited Mt. Rushmore. A key theme right after Thomas Jefferson’s: “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.” was that President Jefferson broke the law in engineering the Louisiana Purchase, and this was applauded by the Park Ranger. The United States would not be what it is without breaking of rotten laws.

The state’s laws regarding divorce and custody are evil. The only thing that will defeat them is are appropriate assertiveness, from men and women.

This group must renounce violence, and then after dealing with my issue, I can lead you to defeat this monster.

In spirit and faith,

Jon smile
Keep the faith

jon on July 17, 2006 at 04:26 pm
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Getting organized may be closer than you think.

Get involved please. Thanks

Brian on July 20, 2006 at 06:52 pm
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So now I can only see my children under supervised access with CAS.....Pathetic....Wheres our justice system going? Why are woman allowed to lie and cheat the system, and get away with false alligations of abuse? Why can’t we charge them for lying on oath when signing affidavits?
Why are we always being looked at as we are making stuff up? Why are woman allowed to rip fathers away without any remorse, and why can nothing be done, and why does no one in the news want to hear about this issue?

Bryan on July 20, 2006 at 08:29 pm
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Please read my story on my web page....Any help would be appreciated....

Bryan on July 20, 2006 at 08:32 pm
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The cafe-press shirt idea fizzled.  I sunk so much time trying to come up with a shirt design, and I probably got about 5 people nation wide wearing the Honor Your Vows t-shirt that I designed after a sign I carried through San Francisco, Berkeley, Pleasanton, Fresno, Clovis, and parts of Oakland.

I wore these shirts for years.  I had one made with my daughter’s picture on it asking the question, “Do you love your children enough to honor your vows?” And, I am absolutely convinced that the one—the one and only reason we don’t win this war hands down is too many people believe it is impossible.  Too many people have been hurt too deeply trying.

Now, I am not in favor of violence at all.  But, nobody has to tell us that this problem will result in violence some day because it’s all around us.

The problem we have is that our so-called justice system has turned into a pimping service for the unfaithful spouses and their partners in adultery.  The faithful are first forced to live under a slavery to fear—fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, threats of divorce if we don’t comply with the wishes of a spoiled, self centered, narcissistic person who has decided it is more profitable and entertaining to become a whore than remain faithful and true to a purpose of a life worth living.

No longer are the children more important than a roll in the hay.  No longer does faithfulness matter to the court.  Out of one side of their mouthes they speak of what is best for the children, and yet their view of it is to encourage the harlotry of adultery and divorce, abuse, and dragging the children and their faithful parents into court to be deprived of their right to live together and enjoy the shared family assets.  And, why are they deprived of these things?  Why did they once have them and lose them?  Is it because of something they did wrong?  No.  It is because the abuser and whore of the family was able to conspire with the court system and bring enough prosperity into a system that is once paid by our taxes and twice paid by extortion, abuse, and robbery of the faithful.

So often we think of this as a gender issue where the court rips the man off.  That may be true to some degree, but in the case where the man is the unfaithful one who files for divorce, usually it’s the faithful woman who gets abused and cheated.

After all, think of it.  The unfaithful spouse can make their adventurous transition from one partner to another never having to suffer the dreadful loss and lonliness or rejection and such.  They just cross over to a new adventure in life.  Then they have plenty of time to conspire against the family, to determine justifications and excuses and ways to blame the faithful and everyone else.  They can prepare with an attorney in advance while the faithful spouse is trying to take care of the family responsibilities for both parents at once and try to save the marriage.

Then suddenly, the money disappears from the bank accounts into the extra marital lover’s account BEFORE the divorce papers are signed, so it’s all legal and the faithful spouse is left to fend for himself and the children.

Yet, suppose the attorneys and judge find this repulsive and evil and come down hard on the unfaithful spouse and lover.  Well, if they do that, where will the attorneys and judges get their money?  How many children grow up in a broken home to pay for one Mercedes?  Or a mansion?  Or a vacation home?  Why is the attorney section of the phone book the thickest section of all by far?  Why?

So, the faithful is threatened legally with the loss of everything precious and dragged into court.  The attorneys hold out their hands to receive protection money from the terror their people imposed.  Can we go to anyone else?  Who would we find?  We can only choose among licensed members of the bar association.  So, do we really have any representation at all?  Do we?

I want to remarry some day but I feel Eileen is worth marrying under an honorable system, and these days my country is about as clueless regarding justice, honor, integrity, and courage as half a doorknob.  Dead stupid.  Irresponsible.  Arrogant, empty headed fools.  Our soldiers come back from war to be treated this way, too.

We swear to tell the truth, and yet they can tell us in a court of law that unilateral no-fault divorce is constitutional.  That’s fine for a person who has a bone for a brain, but an attorney or a judge should know better than that.  And, where does this so-called obligation to bleieve this kind of crap come from anyway?  There are judges and attorneys who actually admit that it isn’t constitutional, and they give plenty of good reasons to support that claim, and they’re just being honest.  But, being honest is not always profitable to those who can destroy the families of little children for money.

But getting angry about it hasn’t solved this problem yet.  In a way, I am glad there are too many chiefs and not enough Indians.  We need chiefs and Indians because there are too many places where work needs to be done to take down this injustice.

We absolutely, desperately need protests on the street.  We desperately need them in front of the courthouses on the days that divorces are taking place.  We need protests to be enough to get on the news.  We need varied protests.  Protests in a certain area.  And, they have to start and remain a little before they can snowball.  And, there needs to be a snowball effect.

We need people to bring Marriage Savers into more communities.  I don’t agree with them on every point, but as far as I know they are one of the organizations that has been most successful in lowering divorce rates where Marriage Savers communities have been set up.  We have to drain the swamp and make the divorce industry unprofitable for the law firms.  We need pastors who will lead their congregations to unify against divorce injustice.  We need to teach our children to stand up for their rights and not for their wrongs.  We need to thumb our nose publicly to the political correctness that keeps us in slavery.

If we are loving and faithful spouses and parents, then why are we abused by the court?  Why do we HAVE to be threatened with the loss of everything precious?  Why do we HAVE to pay a lawywer to defend us?  Why do we have to endure injustice over and over and over again paying an attorney to drag us through an undeserved hell on earth and extorting from us our life, our energy, our resources, our children, our future income, our dignity, our social status, our financial status, our career prospects, and such just to pander to the unfaithful abusive whore who will not keep his or her vows?  Why?

Thank God there is a hell for those people to go to.  Thank God not one of them will find their way to heaven without leaving behind those attrocities and repenting and being forgiven and changing.  If they don’t die on their death bed praying in agony for an end to this attrocity they were involved in promoting, there will be no heaven for them once they pass on.

Even if we take into consideration that heaven is a free gift purchased by the blood of Christ and that salvation is received by grace through faith, there is not a person who could possibly have saving faith in Jesus Christ and not be horrified by the terror of those sins.  There is not a person who could come to salvation from sin without being in agony for those beloved of Christ who have suffered so miserably at their hands.  There is not a person who can be unfeeling who can go through life without a passion to make restitution for the losses caused by such injustice.  Those who do not carry such a regret and repentance of heart are kindling for the flames of hell, and if Revelations 21:8 is truly God’s Word, and I believe it is, then this is an absolutely undeniable truth.  There will be no adulterers or supporters of adultery or lies or injustice in heaven ever.

What this means for us is that we may endure injustice on earth.  We should plan on it.  Like it or not, it is here.  But we have freedom to bring to God and all of heaven a message about our character and who we are.  Are we faithful or unfaithful?  Are we honorable and courageous or deceitful and cowardly?

Just yesterday, I watched a supposedly scientific show on TV discussing the top 10 ways the world might be destroyed.  They mentioned that many religions teach about end times and such, but they wanted to examine this question from a scientific point of view.  They talked about asteroids, super-volcanoes—for example there is supposedly one under Yellowstone Park.  They talked about global warming and the melting of large ice masses that could cause the sea to rise.  They spoke of gamma ray radiation from a star during its collapse, and though the closest star that might go through this soon is many light years away, supposedly it is close enough that the radiation could destroy life on earth.  I chuckled when they mentioned black holes because I know that it’s a common misconception to think of them as sucking in everything around them.  But, in this show they talked about black holes that travel at high speeds through the universe sucking in everything in their paths.  They talked about pandemics, and the danger of nuclear war.  They also talked about computers becoming overly intelligent and joining together and taking over the world.

But, truth is, we’re all going to die one way or another.  It’s a fact of life.  It could happen before you finish reading this message, or it could happen to me before I finish writing it, and you may never see it.  Hmmm.  I’m still typing....So, if you or I die this very minute, do we want to be standing before God as a liar, as an adulterer, as someone who panders to those sins?  Do we want to call attention to our children and our spouses and ask us about how we expressed our love for them?  Do we want Him to question us about whether we prayed for justice or worked for justice, or spoke up for the children and the faithful who are robbed every day?  If we make excuses will God find us truthful or cowardly and deceitful on that day?  Are we truly ready for eternity this moment?  When that final moment does come, how can we know now that we will be ready at that time if we do not make sure we’re ready now?

Those in adultery bring such a deep curse all the way down the generations.  If Adam and Eve’s first sin could cause waves all the way down to this moment and beyond, we must expect that adultery and faithfulness must have a substantial blessing or curse down the generations if there should continue to be more generations.

This is not the time to be unfaithful.  This is not the time for abuse and bullying and violence, but it is also not the time to tiptoe around the issues afraid to bring them up.  If we can be civil and at the same time pull no punches, if we can avoid name calling and overuse of cliches and empty adjectives and speak of nouns and verbs objectively, if we can speak undeniable facts without calling them undeniable facts and find people understanding and agreeing or showing themselves unreasonable, if we can call into question where politicians and leaders stand and ask for specific actions, specific accomplishments, specifics of ongoing projects and where progress is on those projects, if we can learn to be very reasonably intolerant of injustice and learn to expect others to be committed likewise, if we can take the first step and the second one and so on and walk in the right direction without regard to whether others join, sometimes our standing alone can be what challenges others to join forces.

Divorce needs a good healthy starvation.  We need to drain the swamp and let the alligators dry out and die.  WE are going to make some people angry if we make a public stand because children will ask questions and they will learn from us that unfaithfulness and injustice are intolerable and unreasonable.  Children will ask uncomfortable and difficult questions that will make it hard for the unfaithful to avoid squirming, and yet there is a feeling that children are children and should be sheltered from having to deal with such adult issues.

But, guess what.  That’s not reality.  Regardless, children will inevitably deal with the consequences of their parents’ choices.  And, today, we are so adamant about being soft on the unfaithful that we asbuse and torment the faithful and their children, and if the children are suffering because their parents are breaking up, then let the parent responsible step up and say, “I’m responsible—I am the one who is breaking up the family for a roll in the hay.” They are going to know anyway.  But, the problem is that it sets a bad example.  But so does lying to cover it up, and that’s what our courts insist we do.  They even have signs on the doors to the courtrooms saying that recording devices are prohibited.  Why?  Are they afraid that the court record will be proven untrue?  Are they afraid judges and those in the courtroom will be held accountable?  Are they afraid to be honest when they promise to honor the constitution that promises that due process will include a right to a public trial, a speedy trial, a trial before an impartial jury?  Are they afraid to lose that feeling of, “I’m God and you’re not”?

Again, I am very strongly opposed to violence, and yet, I cannot stand in judgment against Dennis Mack or others who become violent.  I belive in holding them accountable for their wrongful decisions, but I also feel that we the people are responsible for the injustice that has driven these people into violence and others into drinking or drug use or murder or bitterness and rape and gang membership and such.  And, if we the people are not willing to bear with this violence and crime on a regular basis, we’re going to have to do something a little more effective than merely getting more police officers and building more jails.  We’re going to have to get a backbone and get off our rears and do something to bring this atrocity to an end.  If we don’t then we have no right to complain.

Divorce drives insecurity into our children.  It drives children to suicide, to depression, to gang membership to regain lost family.  It drives children to succomb to peer pressure, to fall prey to sexual demands.  Children of divorce parents are often great kids, but statistically they suffer a drop in school performance, an increase in teen promiscuity and pregnancy and teen violence, and they are morely likely to fear marriage or end up divorced if they do get married.

The notion that children are resilient and that they will be OK is nothing but a lie the unfaithful tell themselves so they won’t have to suffer the guilt pains of all they are doing to their children.  But, truth is, they’re willing to hurt their children and their spouses in the worst possible way for a roll in the hay.

And that’s more money for our court system, so why wouldn’t the courts reward the unfaithful and punish the faithful?

Dan on August 31, 2006 at 10:02 pm
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